I don’t know if I’m being a little bit emotionally sensitive here but you’d probably understand if I feel a little bit bad being called a “Wuss”. Yeah, it’s actually nothing for everyone but being labeled that way on a social media platform like Facebook in a group which supposedly encourage you to do what you have to, is kinda off the mark. I feel a little bit slighted but I know the person who said it did not mean to offend me. I understand his intention : ) And No, this is not a post against anyone. This is a post for everyone who has been called a “wuss” once (or more) in their lives and why they should know they are meant to survive and win!
So what’s a “Wuss” children?
Why You Are Not A “Wuss”
Yeah, I know I’ve been a loser for quite a time in many aspects of life. However, there are a lot of reasons why I don’t really let people calling me a “wuss” affect me. In fact, I don’t really mind them calling me any names. I’ve been a lot in life and passed a lot of gauntlets. A broken family, poverty, traumatic childhood, hazing, life-and-death situations, illness, and countless humiliation; but here I am. I may falter today, tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow but one thing is for sure – when it hurts, I will get up and muster all the courage that I can muster to push things forward.
Self-preservation and pain are two god-given tools to keep us going wherever we want to be. If you’re breathing now, do yourself a favor and pat your own back. Celebrate! You’re a victor. You’ve escaped the hook of death. Hundreds of thousands dying everyday and here you are reading a loser’s blog post (lol, while reading this, I guess it’s already a win-win:). Tomorrow is another battle. Even if no one appreciates that you have done great today, celebrate that you still exist. Tomorrow you will face another battle. Trust me; it will do you more good than listening to those people who try to put you down.
Should You be Mad at People Calling You Names?
Try not to be “Mad” or emotional but if you do, it’s normal. The question is how you should treat it and use it to your advantage. In my case, I don’t get easily offended by anyone. Emotions will do you no good at all. Being attached to anger will not further your own cause. Be a better person and smile. Yes, smile. They don’t really mean it. They’d like to push you to your limit and we all know sometimes it’s going to hurt. Never, hold any grudge. It will only distract you from your goals. Believe in the inner goodness of every man. No sane human being would really want to hurt another just for the sake of doing it. There has to be a reason behind it. Most often than not, they just want to help you. At the end of the day, you’ll surely thank them for pushing you hard enough to fall and feel the pain.
What to do next?
So much for the pep talk, let’s focus on the real thing. What should you do next?
- Listen. See things objectively. If they’re calling you a wuss, there must be a reason. If they are expressing their criticisms, there might be a thing or two that you will learn from them.
- Stay Proactive. One of my greatest influencers, Stephen Covey, discusses extensively in his books the value of being proactive. Rain or shine, the only difference that any situation can reveal is your attitude.
- Engage. Well, not in an aggressive way. Depending on the type of person you are dealing with, you can ask follow up questions. Genuinely ask, why they think you are a wuss. We have different perspectives and the good thing about perspectives, you can listen and see things on someone’s eyepiece but it will never hurt you.
Ignore. Best thing you can do if you’re dealing with someone who’s really not there to make you a better person. You might ask “how would I know that?” Here’s a simple equation:
Good People = “You’re a wuss!” + Sane constructive criticism + your personal objective research/standard about their criticism (are they really making sense?)
Bad People = “You’re a wuss!” + Insults + Fallacious Reasoning
- Take Action and Prove them Wrong – As the old adage says, success is the best revenge ; ) Hey, just kidding :p If there’s one thing that I’ve learned in life, don’t aim to be a better person just to live to someone’s expectations. Love yourself and be a better person for the people who will benefit to your success : )
In my case, the person who called me wuss is one of my online influencers and I respect him for many things and qualities. I listen to him because I believe and feel integrity in his actions and words. So lesson, don’t take criticisms negatively.
What I’ve done today
Well, I’ve done a lot of things today. I’m using a productivity tracking online app called iDoneThis. It’s really amazing because it somehow subconsciously affirms your accomplishment everyday which is pretty important to maintain your productivity momentum. Here’s a list of what I’ve done:
Aside from those things, I’ve also have other good news:
1. We passed the final interview of a San Francisco startup company as a content writer ;).
2. Earned free one-year subscription to an awesome platform which will surely blow your mind. I’m still working on the affiliate partnership with them.
3. I’ve also connected to a social media marketing tool company for a one-month free subscription of their tools. I’m also working to get my affiliate program application approved. I’m also arranging another surprise for our readers (if there is anyone reading this lol).
4. Pitched another project to a long -term client. Hoping to wrap things up tomorrow. Keeping my fingers cross lol
That’s it for now! Have a great day and remember, “You’re not a wuss!” :D
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